Minimal consensus

While I was waiting for my friend to finish her nails, I started reading some article in newspaper. It was about how to recognize perfect lover. The first sign was if he/she is willing to give oral sex. Since we are living in a world where women which can have vaginal orgasm are rare as polar bears, oral sex and orgasm is, in my book, a sexy must! Then again, what if we turn things around and ask this: is anal sex sexy must?! It can be as pleasurable and painful as oral sex. During last intercourse, guy I was seeing wanted to try anal, and that is my exclusive, only-my-boyfriend zone so I said I don't wanna do it and he was down (no pun intended). 

Do we choose partner because we think we have great sexual connection or because we find them attractive? I remember when I was with a guy who was this amazing looking, charming football player I couldn't wait to get it on. He was such an arm candy and so fun, but when we started hooking up, I was disappointed that he wouldn't go down on me. Maybe I am cruel, but that was the sign why I stopped seeing him. Was that superficial of me? Or aggressive, because he should do only things he is comfortable doing? Are we supposed to only do things we enjoy or not? What about those things we don't like, but not hate? What is minimal sexual consensus? 

This is very hard to determine, because where are talking about private, sexy time. And people like to brag, not to say, lie. Is it penetration thing which is common to all of us? Or is exchange of body fluids considered sexual intercourse? Because there are some persons who are willing to give you head or butt but not let you be inside her vajayjay, because being virgin is very important to them.  Then we come to this: minimal sexual consensus can not be established! It is individual thing, that's why we search for different partners because we all like different things.

Really don't know.. xx